I like to think about what makes relationships work well and what makes them fail. I enjoy learning about what it takes to have a long lasting, committed, satisfying relationship.
When we first meet someone and begin a romantic relationship we can experience love, excitement and joy, then, over time, those feelings are gone and we may notice anger, frustration and despair.
This is because our feelings change and our experience in life changes.
Love makes us vulnerable. Relationships take commitment.
I have been trained in the Gottman Method to couples therapy and practice this approach.
The Gottman Method is an approach to couples therapy that includes a thorough assessment of the couple’s relationship and integrates research-based interventions.
During the assessment phase I see a couple for a joint session, followed by individual interviews with each partner. Couples complete questionnaires and then receive detailed feedback on their relationship. We then decide if couples therapy is appropriate and decide on the frequency of sessions. Following this we move into therapeutic interventions.
I provide a space for couples to experience various interventions based around friendship, conflict management and creating shared meaning in life.
Some of the relationship issues that may be addressed in therapy include:
frequent conflict and arguments
emotionally distanced couples on the verge of separation
specific problems such as sexual difficulties, infidelity, money and parenting.
"The feeling of love comes and goes on a whim: you can't control it. But the action of love is something you can do, regardless of how you are feeling."
"Love is an act of endless forgiveness, a tender look which becomes a habit."